Ki Yachol Nuchal!: Warning: crawly and slimy things alert

I ALSO love lizards and creepy crawlies. Except spiders. I feel about spiders the way Indian Jones feels about snakes. Chameleons are a particular favorite with me. I played the video for my office mate, who asked, "Could we see that again?" Amazing.

Challenge of Body Image

There's an email going around that I've gotten a few times:

Recently, in a large city in Australia, a poster featuring a young, thin and tan woman appeared in the window of a gym. It said, "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"
A middle-aged woman, whose physical characteristics did not match those of the woman on the poster, responded publicly to the question posed by the gym.
To Whom It May Concern,
Whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, sea lions, curious humans.) They have an active sex life, get pregnant and have adorable baby whales. They have a wonderful time with dolphins stuffing themselves with shrimp. They play and swim in the seas, seeing wonderful places like Patagonia, the Bering Sea and the coral reefs of Polynesia.
Whales are wonderful singers and have even recorded CDs.
They are incredible creatures and virtually have no predators other than humans.
They are loved, protected and admired by almost everyone in the world.
Mermaids don't exist. If they did exist, they would be lining up outside the offices of Argentinean psychoanalysts due to identity crisis. Fish or human? They don't have a sex life because they kill men who get close to them, not to mention how could they have sex? Just look at them ... where is IT? Therefore, they don't have kids either.
Not to mention, who wants to get close to a girl who smells like a fish store?
The choice is perfectly clear to me: I want to be a whale.
P.S. We are in an age when media puts into our heads the idea that only skinny people are beautiful, but I prefer to enjoy an ice cream with my kids, a good dinner with a man who makes me shiver, and a piece of chocolate with my friends. With time, we gain weight because we accumulate so much information and wisdom in our heads that when there is no more room, it distributes out to the rest of our bodies. So we aren't heavy, we are enormously cultured, educated and happy.
Beginning today, when I look at my butt in the mirror I will think, ¨Good grief, look how smart I am!¨

It's cute, right? But the message bothered me and today I finally figured out why.
I have decided that I don’t like either message. The message has to be HEALTH, not appearance and not immediate gratification. It’s not healthy for a human being to be a whale. The first time I saw this, it validated my decision to eat what I liked, when I liked, and who cares if I had to wear tents instead of clothes. But I was close to becoming seriously ill, with issues that would have become permanent.

I’ve decided that the message I’d like my kids to learn is that G-d gave us our bodies. Our bodies are loans. They are not ours to use or abuse as we like. Just as we have to take good care of an object we borrow, so, too, our bodies. We don’t try to be healthy because that will extend our life. Only Hashem decides when and where our life ends, no matter how much damage or care we put in. We try to be healthy because Hashem gave us a commandment to 'guard our souls' which is understood by many to mean that one should not endanger oneself.

What do people think?

Challenge of Many Deserving Friends

Did I say that the choices are difficult? I have another Israel-minded friend, another yearner. I'll stick with her blogger name: Lady Light. Her blog is Tikkun Olam.

Somehow, back in the mists of time, we became friends. At the first annual Jewish blogger convention I was really excited to say "hi" to her on the live feed, even though we've never met face-to-face.

Lady Light is another one of those committed, idealistic, determined people whose heart lives in Israel, if not her physical body. In fact, she has FOUR children who live here, including a daughter in the army. She has a grandchild here and another on the way. While two of her sons were in the IDF she was unable to attend a single ceremony they had - their teksei kumta (completing training and getting their brigade berets) or any other completion or award ceremony. Her sons and now her daughter were and are "chayalim bodedim". These are the amazing young men and women who come to Israel to serve in the army, to dedicate their lives to their land and people, without their families and all the support that implies. If you have ever read A Soldier's Mother you can begin to understand what Lady Light's kids don't get. Just think about Eli without his mom's care packages!

And Lady Light's blog, well, it's got a good readership and it's amazingly pro-Israel. LL finds the best stuff out there and brings it to our attention. She keeps us thinking. She keeps us striving to do better. If she isn't (back) in Israel, yet, she wants to make darned sure that everyone else is at least thinking seriously about the importance of Israel in our lives.

Lady Light loves her children, loves her People, loves the Hebrew language and shares it all with us. I think that she'd do an amazing job at presenting the Aliyah experience of another family and I'd love to give her the opportunity.

C'mon NBN. You can't go wrong! I know. Take BOTH of them - Bat Aliyah AND Lady Light!

Challenge of Hard Choices

My dear friend Rivkah of the Bat Aliyah blog, we think alike. It's nice to have a friend who is so much on the same wavelength on so many issues. However my beloved friend has a problem. She firmly knows, in her mind and in her heart, that her place is in Israel. So I really ache for her because she is making the hard choice that I was never faced with. She isn't living in Israel. Yet.

But that's not exactly accurate because a few weeks a year she IS home. The rest of the year she's ... travelling. Yeah. That's it. Travelling.

Just because her travels involve a home in Baltimore, family, friends, community, livelihood and all that goes with being 'settled' does not make her any less a traveller. Rivkah's roots are here, in Israel, and that's where her energy comes from.

But where does her energy go? That's easy! Rivkah uses her tremendous energy, brain and heart to share her passion for Israel and to help others become just as passionate until they can't take it any more. Then they make aliyah! Rivkah is the driving force behind the Baltimore Chug Aliyah and she has the tremendous merit to be the one who pushed many, many families and individuals to take that step and to commit to the land of Israel with everything they have.

So Rivkah is travelling on a spiritual journey. She's taking the long way home. I want to help her.

Rivkah's daughter is coming on the next Nefesh b'Nefesh flight. Even though Rivkah herself has just wound up a visit home, she'll be back to greet her daughter when she arrives at Ben Gurion airport as a New Immigrant. (Rivkah and hundreds of others, including senior government officials, who want to personally welcome those wonderful people filling that charter flight.) But we can do better than that!

Rivkah's turn to arrive as a New Immigrant may not have come, but she can get a seat on that flight to arrive WITH her daughter. She just has to be chosen as THE blogger to blog that flight and the subsequent initial days afterwards. I think Rivkah is the one to do it. Her blog, her whole passion, her life's purpose is Aliyah to Israel. How can she NOT be the one Nefesh b'Nefesh chooses to represent the Jewish Blogosphere on the flight?

So NBN, make the hard choice (and I'm sure it's hard. There are so MANY excellent and worthy bloggers out there). Choose Bat Aliyah, Rivkah Lambert Adler, to blog this flight!

Challenge of Blogging Revisited

OK, so. I've signed up for the 2nd annual Jewish Bloggers Convention, so I guess I'd better blog. And I will, G-d willing. I have a topic I'm stewing over. In the meantime, I have to write another post to nominate a friend to get to come to the convention on the next Nefesh b'Nefesh flight. So faithful followers (all four of you) fear not! Blog posts coming up!

Challenge for my Readers

Shmuel Greenbaum is a person who amazes. He lost his wife in the Sbarro Pizza bombing. She was one of over 100 victims that were killed or injured at 2:00 P.M. on August 9, 2001 at the Sbarro restaurant in Jerusalem. Out of that tragedy, he founded a whole organization devoted to teaching people to be kind, and spreading the concept of kindness. Called Partners in Kindness, he sends out daily and weekly emails of stories of kindness others have done. It's quite amazing.

Now Shmuel is publishing a book of these stories and he needs your help. In his words:

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Please help us!
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Sponsors donating $100 or more will receive
· Acknowledgement on Partners In Kindness website for one year
· Autographed copy of the book

Sponsors donating $50 will receive
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· Non-autographed copy of the book
Sponsorships are tax-deductible in the United States.
For further information visit:
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Challenge of Elections

I've already voted, so in a way this post is unnecessary.

It's difficult to vote, and harder not to. I believe, on the one hand, that Hashem (G-d) is the one who runs everything. On the other hand, I believe we MUST make our own efforts and thereby show Hashem that we are doing our best to live His will.

In previous elections I've voted ideologically. You feel good when you walk out of the voting booth, but down the road when the party you vote for is too small to really make a difference (if it gets in at all) you have to wonder - did I do the right thing?

In this election, I chose to let practicality support my ideology. I believe that to merit this land, we have to do G-d's will and our leaders have to be G-d fearing. But given leaders who are NOT G-d-fearing, what's an ideolog to do? In this case, I chose to support the Likud. Please understand me, I do not support Binyamin Netanyahu as Prime Minister. Finance Minister? Ideal. Foreign minister? Just fine. I am not easy with having this man holding the reins. But I am horrified at the idea of Livni, Barak, or G-d-forbid Leiberman running the country.

The Likud is not just Netanyahu. It is Gilad Erdan, Gidon Saar, Benny Begin and a host of others whom I believe truly care about this nation and its people, and are at least warm to the idea of G-d running things. Sharansky supports the Likud, and that means something to me (though Sharansky and I disagree on a number of issues as well).

So I voted Likud, but I have a sick feeling that I'm going to regret it. I voted Likud, but I'm worried that not enough people like me DID vote Likud. I'm afraid that Livni is going to make the next government. Livni, who is anti-women (look at her voting record on women's issues), who is indecisive and shallow. Where will she lead us? To more war, undoubtedly. We know what happens when we give up strategic territory.

I feel like no matter who wins, Am Yisrael is going to lose.

I voted Likud, and I convinced others to vote Likud. G-d help us.